50 Golden Years

It is a week since our wedding anniversary but this is the week end that we planned to celebrate. After a comfortable night at the hotel, we left for Dave to drop me at the hairdressers. I had planned to go alone but he wanted to take me and said he would park close by and sit and read the paper – I later learned that he wanted to sit and make a list of things which he wanted to say in his speech. The plan was that I would ring him when I got out and he would drive round and pick me up. I was out  within half an hour and tried to ring him but it wouldnt connect. I tried several times to no avail, so I rang Rebbecca and Martyn, neither of them could connect with him either. Now, if he had told me where he intended going to park up, I would have just walked round to him, but I had no idea. I started walking and thankfully, met him walking in the opposite direction. It seems, the taxi driver had rung him to confirm details for that evening, which was why no one could get hold of him.

We went to pick up a couple of thank you cards and then straight back to the hotel, where Dave wanted to start getting ready as he had intended being the first at the venue. He jumped into the shower, only to find that there was no water!!! I went down to reception to report it but they said that the hotel had a problem, there was no water at the hotel and the plumber was trying to fix it, he would be 20 – 30 minutes. 15 minutes later, Dave was getting increasingly more frustrated, so he rang reception. The answer was still the same 20 – 30 minutes. He went mad! He said that wasn’t good enough, it was a special celebration which started at 2pm and he needed a shower – they apologised, to which he replied, I dont want sorry I want a shower. 2 minutes later, the water came back on. Panic over thank goodness, could have been a bit of a smelly vow renewal.

Rebbecca was running late, which set Martyn back so he was late coming for me at the hotel. I left the room and went to reception to wait for him there. The ” photographer ” was waiting in the foyer and my ” chauffeur” was outside. I was immediately  required to have photographs taken

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No, I dont play the piano, it was just set up to look good.

When Martyn arrived, we set off for Villa Salada, fashi

I was greeted by a few people who were waiting to take photographs and the bridesmaids and ushers, whilst I had been having phtotgraphs taken at the hotel, some of our guests had been arriving.

Also, the bridesmaids

After kisses from Francesca and the boys I finally got in and announced that I wasnt going anywhere until I had had a cold drink, a glass of tonic water was produced

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Once refreshed, it was time for the grand entrance.

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First the ushers, Oliver, Joshua and Diego ( from left to right)

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Here we are all lined up and ready to go

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Then bridesmaids Kacia and Michaela

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Finally, the proud moment as I was escorted in by eldest son, Martyn.

The music being played was You’re Still The One by Shania Twain

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So many people who werent able to attend , have expressed a desire to see the service as it was so I will attempt to write it down here just as it went on the day, accompanied by relevant photographs

As Martyn and I made our entrance, everyone stood. It felt so different to 50 years ago when I was so very nervous, this time I was completely relaxed and was able to savour every moment.

WELCOME
A warm welcome to you all today; a special day, in a special place, surrounded by family and friends, which makes it even more special. Today is a very personal journey and I know that Margaret & David would like to say a heartfelt thank you  to those of you who have travelled fromthe UK, Canada and Tenerife. Also to the many friends, old and new, that they have made since moving over to Spain, who are here today. This is the day when Mararet & David have pledged to renew their marriage vows before all of you.
I know that over the past 50 yeas, Margaret & David have travelled extensively, however, Spain is a special place for them having lived here for almost 14 years and it seemed so right to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary here, where they have found happiness, enjoyment and peace.
Today , we have come together to witness the fact that real love, true love is something sure and powerful and that it canendure the challenges of life and withstand the tests of time.
Margaret & David,  50 years ago on April 1st 1967, you took your marriage vows and though many things may have changed in your lives since then, one thing remains constant – your love.
When you married, you promised to love, honour and obey each other whether you were rich or poor. You promised to love each other in sickness and in health. Probably, like most people, you have had  your share of all these times, but your love has grown and matured into the wonderful relationship we see today. Now , you have come here to recommit yourselves to each other and to those promises you made over 50 years ago.

 

CELEBRANTS MESSAGE ABOUT LOVE
Love is giving, not taking, mending , not breaking,
Trusting, believing, never deceiving,
Patiently bearing, and faithfully sharing,
Each joy and sorrow, today and tomorrow
Love is kind, understanding, but never demanding.
Love is constant, prevailing, it’s strength never failing,
A promise once spoken, for all time unbroken,
Love’s time is forever.
During these 50 years together, you have lived inLaceby, Sax, Los Montesinos and now Petrer, but you still retain your close connections to Lincolnshire where you lived when you had your late daughter, Sarah – Louise, sons Martyn and Matthew and daughter Rebbecca. Your children have in turn, given you your grandchildren: Paul, Adam, Dylan, Jessica, Danielle, Nikki, Stephanie, Coley, Diego, Oliver, Maya, Joshua, Kacia, Michaela, Francesca and several great grandchildren. I know how proud you are of the achievements of your family who have excelled academically, musically and in sport and languages.
It is fitting at this point that we make a special mention of your firstborn daughter, Sarah – Louise who sadly passed away before her 16th birthday. Also of Dave’s parents, Jane and Cyril and Margarets, Clarice and Norman. I know that you are thinking of them as you celebrate today.

 

50TH ANNIVERSARY PRAYER   read by Samantha  Swaby
Dear Lord, these two have been as one
Through times of trial and times of fun
50 years as man and wife
They’ve built a home, a love, a life.
Please bless them in the times ahead
With love as strong as when they wed
We pray their love will always hold
A solid bond, as good as gold.

 

RENEWAL COMMITMENT
Couples who decide to renew their vows have lots of life’s experience under their belts. They have been on the journey of life together and as Margaret & David look forward to the rest of their lives, today is the beginning of the next chapter.
EXCHANGE OF VOWS
Margaret I love you. You have brought joy into my  life. Thank you for loving me as I amand aking me into your heart. I vow to return your love in full as we continue to grow together as husband amd wife. Through all the changes of our lives I promise to be there for you today and always
David .I love you. You have brought joy into my  life. Thank you for loving me as I amand aking me into your heart. I vow to return your love in full as we continue to grow together as husband amd wife. Through all the changes of our lives I promise to be there for you today and always

 

WEDDING BAND FOR MARGARET
This is a solumn part  of todays ceremony, but before we go into that I have a story to share with you as Margaret has quite a history with wedding bands!!!
When David first placed the wedding band on Margaret’s finger I’m sure he thought it was forever. However, it didn’t turn out quite like that. Margaret’s first wedding band disappeared down the toilet courtesy of Matthew when he was going through the throwing everything down the loo stage. This band was eventually replace by another but it wasnt of the same quality of the first one. This one was replaced on the occasion of their 40th wedding anniversary,( ring number 3 for those of you who are counting) but to Margaret, it never had the same sentimental meaning. Today, this band represents the band of renewal, celebrating your commitment to each other for the joyous years yet to come. Your past and your future are as an unbroken circle, like this ring, symbolising the memory of all your yesterdays and the hope for all of your tomorrows.
To be said by David

Margaret you are more precious to me today than yesterday and you will be more cherished tomorrow than you are today. Please wear this ring as a symbol of my love for you as we look forward to all of our tomorrows together.

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READING – Excerpt from Winnie the Pooh, by Kacia Hurley and Michaela Swaby
Michaela:   Forever and ever is a very long time.
Kacia:   Forever isn’t very long at all when I’m with you
Michaela:   I want to call your name… forever
And you will always answer forever
And both of us will be
Forever you and me.
Both:   Forever and ever
Kacia:   I want to stay like this forever
If only I could promise forever
Then we could just be we
Forever you and me
Both:  Forever and ever
Michaela:  I want to be with you forever
I want you right here beside me forever
Kacia:   One thing I want you to know, No matter where go.
We will always be together
Both:   Forever and ever

 

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Signing of the vow renewal certificate

The music being played in the background was Golden by Sir Cliff Richard

 David and Margaret you stand together after 50 years of marriage and we all see a love that is priceless. Your example has renewed our faith in the strength of hope and the power of love. Because you have now recommitted yourselves to each other and to the institution we call marriage, I now bestow upon you once again, the most honourable titles of husband and wife.

David …   you may now kiss your wife.  

The music for us to walk out to was My Endless Love by Lionel RIchie and Diana Ross

 

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The celebrant who conducted the ceremony was the lovely Lynda Gibson of Torrevieja

Then it was time for some photographs

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This was us with all of our guests

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Than we attempted to get all our guests into a heart shape

There were a few laughs

Some special moments

 

 

Friends

Family

 

And grandchildren

Friday 7th April

Busy day today. Pam & Dave arrived late on Tuesday night , Our friend, Steve on Wednesday morning and  Martyn , Sam and the children on Thursday and then today, we spent the morning packing and loading up the car, ready to go to the hotel.

The afternoon wasspent running around picking up shopping, the birthday cake and  dropping it off at the venue , then back to the hotel to get ready for our dinner for friends and family .

The hotel La Laguna   http://www.hotellalaguna.com/en/ is beautiful, the rooms are  spacious and comfortable and our meal was superb. 23 of us sat down together and had a really good evening, which didnt end until gone midnight.

These were all taken at the table in the hotel restaurant

Happy times with good friends and family

50 Years of Marriage

April 1st 2017 – we have been married for 50 years today. We are having a very quiet week end – the calm before the storm , as family start arriving on Tuesday night, Wednesday and then meeting the rest at the hotel on Friday.

Everything is done here and we are just looking forward to the forthcoming celebrations next week end.

Opened quite a few cards and some presents too but I suppose they will be arriving all week. Been and ordered a birthday cake for Rebbecca and Fran as they both celebrate their birthdays on the same day that we renew our vows.

March Pinchicks Challenge

First of all, I apologise for the lateness of this. Actually, I wouldnt have done anything at all, because of the close proximity to our vow renewal and all that it entails, but a goodfriend  asked me a couple of nights ago, if I would make him a special card for his new lady friends birthday. He wants to get it when he is over here next week. So, I looked at what I had and then at pinterest. The card I besed it on is this one.96acafad0f2008f7ab36f1a14496916a

Which can be found on my pinterest page under crafts

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Pink, White and black card, my trusty scoring board and tool and  decoupage of pink roses and a butterfly, which I had in, already printed out and cut out to reduce time.

My first attempt however, went in the bin as I managed to get black stained glue on the white card, so I started again.

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This time I used a dard red card for the card itself which I scored and folded using my scoring board. I then matted and layered pink white and black card like so.

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For the ribbon/ bookmark embelishment, I took my Glitter Girls Bookatrix board. On the back is exactly the shape that I wanted, and it is in 2 sizes. I used the smaller of the two, embosseditand cut it out then stuck it onto the card. I cut out an oblong of the black card which I also stuck on using ds tape. I then stuck down the base of the decoupage flat to the card.

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I used clear silicone glue to build up the dimension of the decoupage adding layer upon layer and curling it as I went. A pink gem to the top of the bookmark shape, I felt helped to relieve the black.IMG_9027

Using silver peel off letters, I put the name of the recipient vertically on the bookmark shapeIMG_9028

Two tiny, sparkly flower gems were used to create the body of the butterfly

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Finally, I added the sentiments in silver peel offs and 4 tiny flat backed pears, one in each corner.  Now I just have to find a nice verse to put in.

This is my last minute effort for this month, I hope you like it.

Please look at the eother pinchicks who have entered this months challege by following the links

Memories of 50 Years Ago Today

On April 1st 1967, we were married. I married the love of my life, my soulmate and my best friend.

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A very poor scan of a photograph and the only one I have managed to scan semi successfully. The boy and girl in the photo are my niece , Sally and nephew, Craig, both of whom, not only have children of their own, but also grandchildren. Our bridesmaids were Daves cousin, Anne and my best friend, Janet.

About two and a half years ago we were sat chatting one night and remaniscing, first about our courting days , which then led on to our wedding and I confessed to not remembering much about it. I happened to say, I  have always wished we could do it again when we were more relaxed about it and he suggested that we do it for our  golden anniversary. 2 years ago today we booked the church, but of course, that fell through and now , all the plans are made  and everything is done. Countdown has begun

Tenerife

On 15th January we flew out to Tenerife  to spend time with our daughter, Rebbecca, her partner , Fran and their 3 children. We stayed in Frans house for nearly 6 weeks and apart from passing a cold and chest bug to and fro between us  throughout, which resulted in Dave having 2 severe chest infections, we had a really good time.

 

These pictures were taken at Los Abrigos

These two were taken at Los ChristianosThe ferry in the picture is the one that goes over to the island of La Gomera

Rebbecca took us to Los Gigantes one day

The children fed the fish

And the birds

And then we were fed

We walked down to the beach, watched the waves crashing and enjoyed the sunshine

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We saw a lizard who was also enjoying the sunshine

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And we had an ice cream

We met Fran’s mum and dad for the first time and despite the language barrier, we got on great

On our last full week there, Martyn, Sam and the children came to join us for a week

We had some fun family times

On the Friday evening, we were taken out for a meal at Dolcettas. They then announced that it was an early birthday party for Dave. He isnt 70 until July but as we were all together, they decided to do that so we could enjoy all being together to celebrate.

Our Vow Renewal – changes

As most of you know, this has been planned for for the past 2 years now. The church was booked on our 48th wedding anniversary. I booked it through the churchwarden who told me in an email that although not a marriage ceremony, a vow renewal is very similar to a marriage. Based on this, I started the planning of the whole event.

This is something which is very personal to us and we feel that we should be able to celebrate it in our own way. This, more so because we have only had one marriage in 50 years and so,  it was important to us that we celebrate it in our own way.  I decided that I wanted to include as many of my family as I could, and for that reason I chose to have 6 bridesmaids, 4 granddaughters, daughter in law and daughter. This was not because I feel that I am a bride, on the contrary, it was to include family members and the little girls love to dress up. We  have 2 sons so we asked the eldest to be best man and the younger one to escort me down the aisle, the other daughter in law to do a reading and two grandaughters to sing. Yes, we wanted to include everyone and we knew what we wanted.

In November we arranged to go and see the vicar to sort out the service as we would be away for most of December, half of January and half of February.  Father Richard was pleasant enough but delivered the first blow when I said that I wanted the girls to sing Leonard Cohens “Hallelujah ” – the probelm was that it is lent and the one word that they dont use in church during lent is Hallelujah. I straight away agreed to change my song choice. Father Richard then raised his eyebrows when I said that I was having bridesmaids and asked when I wanted them to walk into the church. I said I wasn’t too bothered really and he suggested ” they can walk in behind the two of you.

Now us entering the curch together had never been part of my remit! I bought my dress when we were in London last May whilst hubby was at a football match and it has been under wraps since then – he still hasnt seen it. That plan would have gone straight out of the window. I also have an ex chauffeur who is going to pick me up from the hotel and take me to the church whos services would not be necessary.

He then asked about hymns and readings. I said that I wanted Anne to do a reading . We had alsready chosen something that we wanted her to read but Father Richard wasnt interested, he told us that he would send us a list of readings that we could choose from.

Now, for the priveledge of being told what we could and couldnt do for our celebration and having to make our choices from his choices, he was charging us 450€ and I was quite upset about his suggestions. The next day, after mulling it over all night, I emailed him, early in the morning and asked if he would compromise and allow Dave to be in the church ahead of me and me to be escorted in by my son. he emailed back very quickly to say that he would have to give the matter some serious consideration. It took him 5 weeks to get back to me and when he eventually did, he said that he had decided that this was not possible. The guidelines of the church state that when a couple  are already married, they should enter the church together, without ceremony and sit at the front.

We talked long and  hard about this. We both really wanted the service to take place in church, but we also felt that we had already compromised about the song and he was not prepared to bend at all. We were not happy with this and ultimately we found a celebrant who would write us a bespoke ceremony and conduct it under a pergola out the back of the restaurant where the reception was to be held. I wrote to Father Richard and cancelled and did not even get the courtesy of a reply.

Now, with our anniversary itself just 2 weeks away and the vow renewal 3 weeks away, everything is in place. Lynda has written us a very personal ceremony which mentions and includes all of our family members. One of the grandadaughters who was to sing is not able to make it but the other brave girl will sing Hallelujah, solo.

I just have a few more buttonholes to make and then all of the flowers are finished. I made a posy to carry,for  myself but a coupe of weeks ago I pulled it to bits as I felt that it was too bridal. I have since made an arrangement of flowers and attached to my handbag and I am a lot happier with it.

Next week we will finalise numbers, menu choices and liase with the hotel.

Our anniversary, on 1st April will be a quiet affair but from 4th  people start arriving and on Friday 7th we go to the hotel for the week end.

I shall be posting photos and lots more details on here afterwards so make sure you click follow on here so that you are informed each time I update.